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I am in the midst of planning a girls' weekender with a couple of great gals. The only thing that has me anxious (besides the 5k I'll be participating in while severely out of shape) is leaving G for the first time overnight. Well, two nights if we're getting technical. I know this sounds stupid. She will be left in my husband's very capable hands and I'll only be about 3 hours or so away, but still. I'm really struggling with how I'm going to do this and not allow my worry and the fact that I know I'll miss her like crazy ruin the weekend. I adore the ladies I'll be going with and I know it will be fun. I'm just worried that this mommy will have a really tough time not tucking her little one in at night.
I'll be honest, this anxiety has been coming from some personal things I've been dealing with. We continue our battle with infertility and the reality that she may be the only little one we're ever blessed with makes my heart both rejoice (for at least being blessed with her) and grieve. It makes me want to cling to every single moment I have with her, but in reality I know that I can't lose who I am either. She needs to see her mom as a woman as well. ::sigh:: While I know these are personal issues I'll continue to bathe in prayer, I'm still in need of something, anything that will help this go smoothly.
So, my question to all of you with more experience and/or advice is, how do I do it?! I am in serious need of some insight. Thanks in advance!
MAke lots of lists, let him do stuff around you to make sure he's doing it 'right', say lots of prayers and have lots of fun when you go! Girls trips are good for the soul!
ReplyDeleteThis is so tough, and doesn't get easier the more often you have to do it! I spend lots of time with my girls the day or two before I leave, then when I say goodbye before my trip, and close the door, I make up in my mind that I'm going to be really present where I am, and not think about them the whole time I'm away. At night I look at pictures of them or some video clips I've shot of them. FaceTime helps if they are in the mood, but can make it worse if they are uninterested in it and you've been banking on getting your "fix" through that.
ReplyDeleteStopping by from the Mama Mondays link up. I completely understand what you are going through. I left my little guy around 4 months to go on a girls weekend for a friends bachelorette party. It was so tough and at first I wasn't sure if I was going to get through it. I had full confidence in my husband and knew he was in the best hands possible. While it was extremely hard for me, I also didn't want to take away from my husbands excitement of his first boys weekend. We skyped while I was away and he sent me a few pictures through out the weekend. It definitely helped but I still missed both of them. Coming home was the best feeling ever. I had a good time while I was away but it was definitely a different experience than previous girls trips. Try to enjoy your time as much as possible and think about all the fun stories you can go home and tell them and also hear about their time together! Best of luck.
ReplyDeleteI understand 100%! I am going through literally the exact same thing, except no fun mommies weekend. My daughter was going to stay at my moms over night and I could not do it. No matter how hard I tried it just got so sad! We are dealing with the same feelings of struggling with infertility and our baby girl might be our one and only. It is really tough some days. I think that once you get there it will be okay. Guess what...you are allowed to be SAD! It's okay to feel unsure and miss her terribly. There is nothing wrong with that. So feel your feelings and once you get there an are hanging out with your girls you will find yourself again. It will fly by and you will be back with her before you even realize it. Good Luck!
ReplyDeleteI feel you, sister... I have to leave E for a week (!!!!) in February, and I am not happy about it at all. I am going to miss that sweet little munchkin... But we have to remember that God will protect our little ones, and that our hubbies aren't some incapable cavemen. ;) Praying for you!
ReplyDeleteI feel ya sister! I've only left Lily (in her 2.5 yrs of life) alone with my husband for max a few hours. Not because I don't feel he is capable, just a result of my own personal hang ups. Last Easter, I had a fundraising event I was co-hosting, as a result I had no choice but to succumb to his abilities for an entire day. Of course, it wasn't over night, but it was so liberating and refreshing. I think the anxiety leading up to the actual event is the WORST!!!! But you WILL come home feeling refreshed and overjoyed.
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