The Different Faces of 1 in 8

Infertility does not stereotype or discriminate. There is no direct way to look at a person and say, “Yep, she’s infertile” or “she’s definitely not able to conceive.” It does not work like that. As this week winds down and National Infertility Awareness Week draws to a close, I am reminded of just how varied the faces are among this chosen group. I am also reminded that no matter how diverse we are, we all have the same aches in our heart.

 People who do not know our story would assume nothing other than normalcy. We got married, had kids, and are living happily ever after. Yes. Yes. And yes. However, conceiving was a major struggle for us and we found ourselves sitting in the statistic pool of infertility laden couples. We became 1 in 8. We became 1 in 8 couples who struggle with infertility.

 Our journey has led to many new friendships, the initiation of a new, local support group, and blessings beyond measure. Do I wish we had it a little easier? Some days, I honestly do. Like now, when we dream of adding one last babe to our family. I wish I did not have to regulate my hormones, make multiple doctor office visits, sit through blood work, plan “romantic evenings” around ovulation, and temp every morning. However, I know it is worth it. Having had to face all of the uncertainties twice now, I know what we may be up against. However, I also know that we could get miraculously pregnant the first month on fertility meds. It has not happened, but it could.

"Normal" couples do not think like this. The other 7 couples in the pack typically receive their miracles within 6 months to a year of trying. That is not our journey. While we have two children that we love and adore, we still find ourselves connecting best with those who have or are struggling with infertility. We know the heartache. We know the uncertainty. We can appreciate the journey. God chose us to walk this road and for that, I can say that I am grateful. The connections I have been able to make are ones that I would not have made otherwise.

I may be 1 in 8, but I am thankful.